GETTING RID OF SORROW – JAR CHETAN GRANTHI BHED
(The duality of the gross and the subtle)
The laws of nature are constant and eternally valid. A view contrary to it, lacks validity. For example, we, through our soul, are responsible for our joys and sorrows. We often ignore this and treat objects, persons, circumstances etc. as the reason for joy and sorrow. If material objects could give joy, then the present age has so many of them and yet human beings are full of sorrow, without peace and happiness. In the more developed countries, half the population has to resort to pills to induce sleep. Joy is independent of material comforts. If it were not so, the rich would always be devoid of all traces of sorrow. However life presents a totally different perspective.
Actually, joy and sorrow do not arise from any material objects but depend upon an observation of what is available and by correlating them appropriately. Seeing things in a proper perspective gives joy and seeing them in a lopsided manner yields sorrow. Material objects, family members, close relations and even our body and mind are exclusively different from our soul and, therefore, are something extraneous.
It is incorrect to assume that any outside object or person can give us joy or sorrow. The attachment to our family and close relations too is irrelevant. Only that is ours, which never leaves us. All objects and relations will leave us one day. Let us examine the technique to treat our soul, distinguished from our physical frame and isolate ourselves from the joys and sorrows of the body.
The identity of the body and the soul is an illusion. Soul and body stay apart. They never overlap. Attachment to our body is very intimate and deep. By treating the soul as different from our body and insulating ourselves from attachment to the body, we can prevail upon this confusion.
In the spiritual world, distinguishing the ” Sva” (self) and the “Para” (other) is known as “granthibhed”. Not getting influenced by the “Para” (other) is a spiritual pursuit. Success in realizing it is Mukti (emancipation).
The truth is that “para” or other cannot give joy or sorrow to our soul. However, we are so often confused by this syndrome. Coloured spectacles distort our vision. For seeing things in the right perspective (Samdrishti), we have to isolate ourselves from attachment of any sort, and, then, observe in an impersonal, balanced manner.
Once we are able to get rid of the attachment with the “Para” (other), bondage to extraneous objects ceases to exist. Stability, peace and equanimity bless us and we get the “samdrishti” or the right vision.